Thursday Tunes

28 Oct

Hi, All. Or the few who might actually read this blog since I haven’t really told anyone about it. I’m actually pretty shy about this whole blogging ordeal. But I love reading blogs, and I’m actually quite getting a kick out of blogging, myself. This is the third time I try it, and hopefully I’ll stick around this time. Anyway, you know the saying “Money doesn’t grow on trees?” I wish it did. (Don’t we all?) As you know, we’ve been living with my in laws and it’s getting a little… well, crowded. I guess it’s been that way since the beginning, but since Matty was born, we’ve REALLY noticed a change. I’m surprised there aren’t burp cloths hanging from the ceiling fan. I’m not complaining, although it sounds as if I am. I’m very grateful that we even have this opportunity of living here and it has been AMAZING having all the help with Matthew. It’s just… we want our own space so bad. I can’t wait to decorate it and make it ours. I know the day is coming. Although my wish is to be a WAHM, right now I need a fixed income. We have credit cards to pay, and student loans, and we need a place ASAP. But I will definitely continue with my business ideas and I know one will stick!

Last night at church was amazing. We attend a young adult service called The Outlet on Wednesday nights and it is a tremendous blessing to both of our lives. Without God in the center of our lives and marriage, things would be so much harder. The message was totally for me… “Don’t quit on your dream job, don’t quit on school… keep pushing forward and you will make it… you’re almost there.” Haleluyer! Just what I needed to push another day. Today’s tune was one of the worship songs played yesterday. It’s called Healer. Although you may not be physically sick, God is not only our Healer of sicknesses, He will heal your insides, too. That’s what He did for me. And man, am I glad He did.

A $3,000 Wedding.

23 Oct

Over the years, I’ve met many happily engaged women who have decided to forgo their wedding because of financial hardship. I can completely understand this, as I was almost one of them. Brett and I had a hard time deciding whether or not to have a wedding because there were so many other things we could have used this money for… an apartment, or diapers, even. Yes, we were pregnant, and we couldn’t justify spending an insane amount of money on a wedding when we had so much to plan for. Still, my heart wanted that wedding, as I’m sure every woman does deep inside. It’s not the wedding, it’s the marriage and all that, but such a special day deserves to be spent with the ones who love you, whether or not you can afford to host a lavish affair.

Enter our wedding. We decided to spend not a penny over $3,000. And, we had three weeks to plan. Bride, if you’re out there feeling discouraged about your special day, ANYTHING can happen if you are willing enough.You too, can have a $3,000 wedding if you apply certain rules.

Rule #1

Have a backyard wedding.

A venue can easily charge up to $5,000  if not more just for the space, and you’re on your own when it comes to everything else. That means tables, chairs, linens, food, etc. If you have a close family member with a nice backyard, talk to them about allowing you to have your wedding there. Chances are they will say yes, and it makes for an intimate feel. Our wedding was held in my mom’s backyard, which isn’t so big, but we made it work.

Rule # 2

Cut the guest list.

Keep the guest list to a bare minimum. This means closest family and friends only. Don’t invite your coworkers, or friend’s friend… Basically only people whom you and your fiancee know and hold dear. Remember, this is a sacred event, more than a party. Spend it with people who genuinely care for you and are happy to be with you on your day. We had exactly 50 guests, and it was perfect.

Rule # 3

DIY

Do it yourself. Research on the internet about making your own invitations, seating/escort cards, table numbers, etc. The more you can do on your own, the better. Get a group of friends together and ask them to help you. You’d be surprised how well you can do! There are plenty of sites out there like Wedding Chicks with templates you can customize so you can save money, without compromising style.


The most important thing is to remember that you don’t have to impress anyone. Since your guests are your close friends and family, they understand, and they won’t care if you use plastic plates. They care about watching you walk down that aisle, and that means more than anything.

Thursday Tunes

21 Oct

Hi! I’m still working on posting every day. Yesterday was my hubby’s birthday. Our birthdays are a week apart, so most of the time, we celebrate together. This past weekend we went on a little birthday road trip to Orlando. We visited Islands of Adventure and had a great time. Rollercoasters, good food and all around a great time with friends. Matty stayed behind. It was fun to have a little adult time, but man did I miss that little guy.

Moving on, today is Thursday and I would like to share a song that means something to me. Not necassarily the hippest song, or something on the top 20 charts. It could be the dorkiest most ridiculous song, and it probably is…but it means something to me. This week’s Thursday tune is anything but ridiculous though, because it’s from Dave Matthews Band, and we all know that they are the epitome of badassery. Being that this is my husband’s birthday week, I’d like to share our song. Not the song we danced at our wedding, but our song nonetheless. My husband got me up from the hospital bed while I was recovering from my C-section to slow dance this song with me the day after Matthew was born. It was the most romantic moment of my life. Babe, this is for you.

3 months ago…

18 Oct

Well, three months ago on Friday. I had been admitted into South Miami Hospital to induce my labor. I remember everything I was feeling: Scared, excited, scared, nervous, anxious, and scared. You hear all these stories about “the worst pain in the world is labor pain.” Thanks a lot, people! I had passed my July 11th due date and I was beyond ready to have my baby. I wanted to bend over, sleep on my belly, see my feet again when I looked down. But most of all, I wanted to see my baby’s face. Look into his eyes and finally meet this little person who had been growing inside of me for nine (ten) months. My doctor said I had not dilated at all and I would need a little help getting labor started.

Upon being admitted at the hospital, I was administered Cervidil, which is  a drug used to prepare the cervix for the induction of labor in pregnant women who are at or near term. It was like a little tampon which was supposed to be in for 12 hours, then I would be given pitocin to kick up the contractions. Being the google queen that I am, I did my research about the drug and prepared myself for what was to come. With hubby by my side, I slept through the night from about 2 AM until about 7. Although I read that Cervidil rarely starts labor, I was having very active contractions and had dilated to 4 centimeters when I was checked in the morning. By 9 AM, I was desperate for my epidural. 9 hours later, I was about 8 centimeters dilated when the doctor decided to finally give me some pitocin so I can “get this baby out.” That’s when the scariest experience of my life took place.

Within 10 minutes of being given the drug, my baby’s heartbeat dropped to about 25 beats per minute. For those who don’t know… Baby’s normal heartbeat is between 110 and 160 bpm. Suddenly, there were about 6 nurses in the room along with my doctor who was explaining to me that we had to have an emergency c-section or the baby could die. I was hysterical, while my husband took off my jewelry and I was wheeled off into the Operating room. I never prepared myself for a C-Section! All I could do was close my eyes and pray that my baby would be okay. C-sections are scary. You feel everything! Anyhow, at 7:09 PM, on July 15th, I heard the most beautiful sound in the world… My baby crying. Matthew Anakin was here, with me, safe and sound. He weighed 8 lbs, 8 oz and measured 19 inches! The best moment in my life thus far, is captured in these pictures:

Words can’t explain what you feel when you become a mom, but I can try:

Your heart feels like it’s going to explode with love. Also with worry. All of a sudden, you think about everything and anything that can happen to your little one and are willing to give your life to protect him from the outside world. When those little eyes look at me, I can’t help but thank God for allowing me to raise this child of His. What a privilege it is.

Dear Matty,

You are three months old now. You recognize me and daddy and your grandparents and you smile when you see us. Most of the times in the morning after you’ve had your breakfast and we get ready to change you, you are so talkative! You spend your mornings “talking” and laughing with your grandma, your auntie, and I. You weigh 17 lbs, and measure about 23 inches. You’ve grown so much! You love tummy time, and you have started to roll onto your back. You have begun to grab your bib and blankie, or any object within your reach and bring it to your mouth. Daddy discovered your love for the Angry Birds app and you are mesmerized every time we put it on for you. You love when Daddy reads you the very hungry caterpillar, and you give him your full attention every time. You love to sleep in the bed with me, and you hate your bassinet. It’s okay, because mommy loves sleeping snuggling with you.

I just want you to know that I would do anything for you. I pray every day that God makes me into the best possible mother I can be to you. I know I am far from perfect. But I adore you. I pray for you, your future, that God protects you and that you will live a life after God’s heart. I promise I will be there for you every step of the way. I love you.

This is the song that mommy dedicated to you.

Bad English- When I see you Smile

Sometimes I wonder
How I’d ever make it through,
Through this world without having you
I just wouldn’t have a clue

‘Cause sometimes it seems
Like this world’s closing in on me,
And there’s no way of breaking free
And then I see you reach for me

Sometimes I wanna give up
I wanna give in,
I wanna quit the fight
And then I see you, baby
And everything’s alright,
everything’s alright

When I see you smile
I can face the world, oh oh,
you know I can do anything
When I see you smile
I see a ray of light, oh oh,
I see it shining right through the rain
When I see you smile
Oh yeah, baby when I see you smile at me

Baby there’s nothing in this world
that could ever do
What a touch of your hand can do
It’s like nothing that I ever knew

And when the rain is falling
I don’t feel it,
’cause you’re here with me now
And one look at you baby
Is all I’ll ever need,
you’re all I’ll ever need

Chorus

Sometimes I wanna give up
I wanna give in,
I wanna quit the fight
And then I see you baby
And everything’s alright,
everything’s alright

So right…

Thursday Tunes

14 Oct

I ended up having a FABULOUS birthday with my hubby. He surprised me and took me to Cinebistro with all of our close friends. For those of you who don’t know, Cinebistro is a movie theater where you can have dinner while you watch your movie! Best of all, it’s 21 and over so you don’t have to deal with annoying youngins talking too loud or ruining your experience. We saw the Social Network, which was awesome. Would recommend it to anyone! I ordered the Fettuccine  which was oh, so delicious! Anyway, I had a great time 🙂

So I decided to post a song which means something to me once a week because it’s my blog and I can do whatever I want! I have a secret obsession with the old Mariah Carey. You know, pre-mid life crisis Mariah. Once in a while, she still does surprise me with an amazing song. Despite her life choices, she has a BEAUTIFUL voice and I consider her a full blown diva. Don’t judge me! This song is actually not so old, from her Rainbow Album. She calls it Mariah’s theme and the lyrics speak directly to my heart. Enjoy!

They can say
anything they want to say
try to bring me down
But I will not allow
anyone to succeed
hanging clouds over me
And they can try
Hard to make me feel that I
Don’t matter at all
But I refuse to falter in what I believe
or lose faith in my dreams

Cause there’s
There’s a light in me
That shines brightly.
They can try,
but they can’t take that away from me.

Oh, they
They can do, anything they want, to you.
If you let them in.
But they won’t ever win,
if you cling to your pride and just push them aside.
See I, I have learned
There’s an inner peace I own.
Something in my soul,
that they cannot possess.
So I won’t be afraid,
and the darkness will fade.

Cause there’s,
there’s a light in me.
That shines, brightly. yes
They can try, but they can’t take that away from me.

No, they can’t take this,
precious love I’ll always have inside me.
Certainly the Lord will guide me,
where I need to go.

Oh, oh, they can say.
Anything they want to say.
Try to bring me down.
But I won’t face the ground,
I will rise steadily,
sailing out of their reach.
Oh lord, they do try.
Hard to make me feel, that I.
Don’t matter at all.
But I refuse to falter,
in what I believe or loose faith in my dreams.
Cause there’s, there’s a light in me.
That shines, brightly…..yes

They can try, but they can’t take that away from me.

Reminiscing…

13 Oct

Because I can post twice in one day if I want to!

I miss this.

It’s my Birthday!

13 Oct

I can’t believe another year has passed by. As I mentioned earlier, a year ago I had NO idea I would be where I am now. No clue I would be celebrating with my 3 month old son. A year ago on my birthday, my priority was to find the chicest restaurant where I would celebrate with my girls. Getting my hair and makeup done were the highlights of my day. So much has changed. The greatest gift I have received this year has been my son. Cheesy as it may sound, I don’t need anything else! That being said, leave it to my amazing husband to plan an awesome birthday weekend for me. We’re going to Orlando to visit the  park at Islands of Adventure. Can’t wait! He’s also surprised me with an awesome Juicy Couture handbag, The Beauty and the Beast Limited Edition Blu Ray, (I have started collecting all the Disney classics for my son) and an “M” (for Matthew, of course) Pandora charm. Let’s not forget the beautiful card! Thank you, husband for being who you are. I am honored to be your wife and the mother of our beautiful son. I love you.

Now, a day of gluttony. Red Velvet Cupcakes, here I come!
Here are some pics from last year’s birthday: